Sabrina Maxwell - Blog #1 Question #1

In the poem, "My Exhusband", the writer conveys a very real sense of sarcasm  and bitterness towards her ex-husband. In most cases of divorce this type of regard for the spouses towards each other is exactly how she describes her own. Although there is no concrete evidence of her previous husband cheating on her, she states several accusatory statements regarding his affairs away from home and from her. The paradox hidden in this poem is, did he cheat on her or did he not cheat on her; and it seems as though he did not cheat on her. It seems as though she was a very jealous type of person and if he dare look in the direction of another woman, that would be considered "cheating" on her. The writer never points out an exact time, place, or person for that matter involving her previous husband's additional affairs. Some examples of this matter are as follows: In the line number 9, "He seems like any woman's perfect catch,"the word seems suggests that she is assuming for the first in the poem that her husband was in fact cheating or consorting with another woman, but cannot seem to prove it correct or incorrect. Line number 17, "Could flush the throat of any woman, not just mine," she states this in such a way as to suggest that she knows he was doing things behind her back and her reasoning is that if he can do it to her, then he is perfectly capable of doing just that with another woman. Still there does not seem to be any evidence of an affair, this is just her not trusting him because she suspects that he is cheating.  In lines 28-30, "And he flirted-fine! but flirted somehow a bit too ardently, too blatantly, as if, if someone ever noticed, no one cared how slobbishly he carried on affairs." In this particular part of the poem, she proves absolutely nothing for him or against him in the matter of cheating. She throws out the word "someone" and "no one" which clearly suggests that she is doing it all to herself. Instead of confronting the matter to him personally, she just goes on about how she prides herself from finally ridding herself of someone who did not treat her like she wanted to be treated. She also seems to be extremely confident in the matter of divorcing him with absolutely nothing to justify anything, and without going to get a professional's opinion. She paints herself as if she is the right one in the situation, and everyone else, including her now ex-husband is wrong.