My Ex-Husband Analysis- Allison Geviss

Throughout the poem of "My Ex-Husband" by Gabriel Spera the Ex-Husband is going about with affairs in both a secretive and obvious way. " That passionate, earnest glance he struck, meanwhile WHISPERING the sweetest things". In this description it appears as if he is being secretive while whispering in other women's ears trying to assure that no one else knows he is doing so. "Reserved an intimately dim-lit place half-hidden in a corner nook". The Ex tried to be secluded away from onlookers who may recognize him and tell his wife. So he hid in the corner while having a romantic dinner with other women. However she also claims "and he flirted-fine! but flirted somehow a bit too ardently, too blatantly" meaning he did not care who saw that he was flirting so often. He was willing to flirt openly as if he did not care who knew, even his wife.  Also she describes "how slobbishly he carried on affairs". Even though his affairs were "well rehearsed" he carried them on slobbishly, not trying to hid it. The Ex-husband is portrayed as being both secretive and open about his affairs. This openness leads to the downfall of their relationship and thus being the solution to the paradox.